I always hear this sentence when I was very young: It’s the same for boys and girls.
No matter whether this is a view or a verbal digit, there is no error. It is the same for a boy or a girl to say that it is the same in terms of certain meanings. As long as the parents raise their children well and report them to their parents well afterwards, it will be full.
{99}Sadly, in reality, there are many parents who adhere to the "favoring men and light women": some are easy-to-see men and light women, only paying attention to their sons, not taking their daughters seriously; some are relatively implicit men and light women, although they seem to be colleagues on the surface, they are actually favoring men and light women.
The idea of favoring men and being a light girl will not only make the daughter unbalanced, but it is easy to destroy the relationship between her daughter and her parents. Moreover, this kind of problem occurs in some families: the way parents respect men and women is blindly loving their sons and drowning their sons; the sons rely on their parents to favor men and women, but they do not learn well, and act recklessly when they are young, and they rely on their parents when they grow up.
The parents who swear to sacrifice their daughter's happiness to fulfill their sons are all those who value boys and girls. In this family, if the son has bad intentions and is challenged and separated, it is even more likely to destroy the relationship between the family.
The following woman was born in a family that favored men and was a young woman. She had an older sister and a younger brother. The most profound memory she remembered from childhood to adulthood was that her parents always loved her younger brother and rarely treated her and her sister. For specific circumstances, we will hear what she said.
Teacher Dong Lin:I want to talk to you about my original family and about my relationship with my parents.
Simply speaking, my sister and I were at home from childhood to adulthood, just like Su Mingyu in the Chinese drama "Everything is OK". Not only did we not be treated well, but we always saw my mother drowning in love with my brother. My brother relied on being cheated at home and was always looking for trouble and challenging him, which made my relationship with my sister and my mother very tight.
My dad can't be my mother's boss, so he always stays out of the matter. Occasionally, he will secretly give me and my sister some pocket money, which is limited to this. I rarely feel the warmth of other families.
My sister and I have the same idea. We both want to leave that home as early as possible, and we both want to own a small home as early as possible. After
, we got married. We thought we could get rid of the shadow of our original family, but the result was: my mother was not so easy and easy at all.
Because my brother has been drowned and has never been well-educated, so when he grew up, he not only did not work properly, but also kept dependent on his parents. When he didn't say he was going to get married, my sister and I were still in a safe life. Since he urged my mother to say that he was going to get married and buy a house, my sister and I had a hard life.
In order to get my brother married, my mother asked my sister and I to buy a house for him, and she actually asked me and my sister to pay 2 million each of them to buy a house for the full amount.
My sister and I couldn't accept it. First, we didn't have that much money, and we were still refining our house. Second, we felt that my mother was too unfair to our sisters, and it was clearly a waste of our lives to fulfill my brother.
After discussing with my sister, I refused the request from my mother. As a result, my mother went to the door every day, as if she was asking for money. One day later, we cheated two of us home, and closed the door and asked us to take out 2 million each.
My sister is the boss and has encountered more things than me. In the end, she couldn't stand my mother anymore. She clearly told her mother:
『You are not treating him, but harming him. Look at how old he is? At this age, can’t we work hard and make money well? What about the money he made? If you have to be capable, have to work but have to be unemployed, and have been dependent on your parents until now, if you don’t discipline him well, and you still have to be tempted by him, I really don’t understand what you are thinking.
When can you treat him? If you and my dad are gone, he will not do anything. What should I do? Will it be hard to let my sister and I raise him together?
Anyway, I won't give you a penny, and I don't want to spend money to buy a waste. My sister won't give you money either. If you want to treat your baby son, just treat it yourself! My sister and I didn’t live easily, and we didn’t want to destroy our current life! '
My sister's words will naturally anger my mother. But it was useless for her to be angry because her request was indeed unreasonable as my sister said. If we pay for money at this time, there will be no benefit for everyone. I hope my mother can be more awake one day, otherwise if this continues, more troubles will definitely happen in the future!
Some parents favor boys and young girls, which will only destroy the lives of their sons!The problem in the above case is nothing to say, it must be the problem of her mother, and it is all because her mother favors men and light women.
If her mother does not value boys and girls, she can always do everything in a good way. In this way, when the son wants to get married and buy a house, the sister will definitely lend a helping hand, and the family will definitely help each other.
But the problem is that their family has not helped each other from the beginning. The mother has never treated her daughter well and has always been doting her sons. Even though she has become a waste and is still determined to act alone, she asks two daughters to pay money to make the waste sons. In the eyes of the daughter, she is tolerating a mistake. Of course, they will not pay.
There is nothing good about this kind of problem. Even parents should clearly distinguish between mistakes.. The mother's attitude and practices are problematic. If she does not receive support from her daughter, she will continue to be unfair and obsessed with her.
I hope other parents can take it as a warning, do not treat drowning love as love, do not treat tolerance as love, otherwise you will use the so-called "benefiting men and light women" to get angry, and you will suffer. Your habitual son will not care about you. You have broken your relationship with your daughter because of your habitual son, and your daughter doesn’t care about you. When you come to the forefront, you have children and have no support. It’s really a tragic thing!
This article is reproduced from Donglin Xiting Public Number